Remembering Mom

Today is my mother’s 82nd birthday, or would have been had she not died in her early forties. Now, at the age of 46, I have already lived three years longer than she did. I think of her every day even though more than seventy five percent of my life has been without her. One of the things I realized this year is that I can recall very few of the conversations we had. But Read More …

Milestones

When one becomes a parent there are certain milestones in your child’s life you are programmed to expect: the first time your child rolls over, his first step, her first day of school. But not all milestones are anticipated – at least they weren’t by me. This year brought two of these unanticipated milestones into our lives. The first was when our 8 year old stopped coming into our bedroom an hour or so before Read More …

R-E-S-P-E-C-T

My son recently joined a new sports team. It is a new league, in a new town, with a new coach. I sent his coach an email last night and shortly thereafter realized that I had addressed the coach by his first name. Not having participated in organized sports myself, I am much less attuned to the etiquette than my husband is, that one calls the coach “Coach”. Before I had much time to fret Read More …

Outside the comfort zone: part 2

There are many moments in life when I find that I am at a loss for words but none of them are quite as hard as when I am trying to respond to someone else’s misfortune. Whether I am hearing of a death, divorce or medical condition, words of comfort, while heartfelt, are hard to find. Nothing seems adequate. “I’m sorry” just doesn’t seem to cover it when responding to news about a terrible diagnoses Read More …

Fix It

The floor’s been swept. The bathroom scrubbed. The counters cleared. He pulls out tools Mends the fence. Screws the stairs. Replaces the jamb. Yet at home he flees for the office. And who can blame him? Not a surface on which to balance a plate, nor a floor clear enough to clean. Items fall off the shelves as one squeezes by to get from here to there and when it gets picked up it merely Read More …